A father of two recently asked the Reddit community whether he should splash out on a luxury bathroom for his wife or lend the money to his brother, who needs it.
Here’s what he had to say.
The man had decided to celebrate his 10th wedding anniversary by getting a bathroom installed in the basement. He’s had to cope with a single bathroom for a decade, and things have become more difficult as his kids grow up.
So he decided to “go all out” as much as he could afford to. “I am getting a two-person tub with jets, in-floor heating, and a heat lamp so my wife can dry off and stay warm,” he said.
However, a problem emerged that could potentially put an end to his dream.
His brother was having money problems. “He called me and asked if I could spare any money to help him out,” the man said.
Although he was aware that his brother “has a tendency to live beyond his means,” he was also aware that they both have similar jobs and salaries. But the brother “has a huge house with three and a half bathrooms. He drives a $150,000 truck that he would never use to tow, haul, or go off-road with, and his wife’s engagement ring cost as much as my motorcycle,” the man explained.
In contrast, the man, his wife, and their two kids live in a “cozy” 1950s bungalow. Annoyingly, the brothers’ mom constantly compares their lifestyles. “She loves showing people pictures of his Christmas decorations and stuff. And she shares his vacation pictures. That sort of thing,” the man said.
The bathroom budget was $25k, but it will probably go higher when the contractor starts working.
Unfortunately, the man feels their mother is siding with the brother and thinks he should lend him the money.
“She says that I don’t spend any money, so I should have some saved to help out my family,” the man explained.
The mom also said that the brother might have to sell his truck or downsize his home.
Understandably, the man told her that it was not really his problem. “He makes a little more than I do a year, so he should have savings, too,” the man told her.
It all comes down to the fact that the man doesn’t want to lend his brother any money and disappoint his wife. “She deserves a bathroom where she can take long baths without the kids or me interrupting to use the toilet,” the man said.
He could potentially cut corners and lend the brother some money, but he doesn’t want to do it, even if it means his brother has to sell his stuff or downsize. His mom doesn’t seem to agree with him, so the man asks the Reddit community for advice.
One person said, “It’s your money OP, period. Boohoo, my brother may have to sell his truck. Maybe your wife can cry about it in her new tub. NTA, and truthfully, screw him and the rest of your family. If they want to bail him out so badly, let them open their wallets.”
Another noted, “You and your family (wife and kids) come before your brother. Your family wants and needs a second bathroom. You should spend your money to improve your and your family’s living situation with a second bathroom. Your brother should downsize his truck or spending.”
What do you think? Should the man help out the brother financially?
Source: Reddit
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