A 26-year-old woman recently got into an argument with her partner for not allowing her 12-year-old stepson to accompany them on holiday.
Here is what she had to say.
She and her 26-year-old partner have three children between them. The man has his son, and the woman has two daughters, aged nine and seven.
Her stepson used to stay with her and her partner on weekends but has since decided he does not want to stay there anymore, as he had to share a room with the woman’s daughters.
He now wishes to spend all of his time at his grandmother’s.
“He’s getting older and wants space, plus he is getting too old to share now,” she said.
“I don’t have a problem with this at all! He needs to do what is best for him, and I’m not going to force him to come to my house all the time when he doesn’t want to.”
“But he also doesn’t want to spend any time here whatsoever.”
The family went away on holiday last year, and on the trip, the woman’s stepson had his own room. They went on to have a “relatively” good time.
She had planned to book a holiday this year but told her partner she was unwilling to pay for her stepson to accompany them.
This was because she felt he would spend zero time with the family. As he does not enjoy being around her children much anymore and does not particularly like her, she thought her stepson would not really enjoy the trip.
After she revealed her decision to her partner, he got angry and threw a “massive tantrum.”
He said that she was purposely leaving him out of things to be spiteful.
In reality, however, the woman is the one who pays for everything related to the holiday, such as clothes, activities, food, and the trip itself.
She wants both her children and herself to enjoy the holiday without her stepson moaning about being there in the first place, which would take away from their experience.
The woman also noted that her stepson constantly complained about their last holiday together.
Therefore, she does not want to pay for someone who would not appreciate the trip.
Her husband is angry with her, so the woman asks the Reddit community if she is in the wrong for not wanting her stepson to go on the trip. Should she pay for the stepson to go?
Unfortunately for the woman, most commenters did not appear to be on her side.
“Your lifestyle excludes him,” said someone. “Your spouse should be doing more so you all can afford a new place where there is space for him.”
“You clearly don’t think of him as family, and it’s apparent to him,” said another commenter.
“Hence why he stays with his grandma. You are fine with this because you don’t actually want him in your life. That is clear.”
What do you think? Is the woman in the wrong for not allowing her stepson to come with her on holiday?
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Source: Reddit
