9 Obvious Signs That You’re Doing Too Much For Everyone Else

Are you constantly feeling drained and overwhelmed by the demands of others? Do you struggle to say “no” and find yourself sacrificing your own needs for the sake of others? If so, it may be time to reevaluate your boundaries. In this article, we will explore 9 telling signs that indicate a need for better boundaries in your life.

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#1 You Complain About the Same Thing Again and Again

This can be a sign that you are not taking responsibility for your feelings and experiences, and maybe you’re blaming others when you’re annoyed. A possible resolution for this could be for you to examine your role in the situation and try to identify what actions you can take to improve it. You should focus on finding solutions rather than just complaining.

#2 Your Relationships Tend to Be Difficult or Dramatic

This indicates that you may be attracting or allowing yourself to be involved in unhealthy or toxic relationships. Try to examine the patterns in your relationships and identify any red flags or warning signs. Make it a goal to set and maintain healthy boundaries in your relationships and surround yourself with positive and supportive people.

#3 You Hate to Let Other People Down

Putting the needs and wants of others before your own can lead to neglecting your own needs and feelings. It is perfectly OK to say no when you don’t want to do something and make sure you put your needs and wants first. Remember to prioritize your own well-being.

#4 You Feel Like You Have No Free Time

We are all guilty of saying yes to too many things or not setting limits on our time. This will often lead you to feel overwhelmed and overworked. A possible resolution for this could be for you to learn to say no to things that do not align with your priorities. Also, try to schedule in some “me-time” for yourself and try to find a balance between work and leisure.

#5 You Feel Resentful Towards Others

Feeling resentful often means you feel that you are being taken advantage of or not being respected in your relationships. Learn to express your needs and wants in a direct and assertive manner, but also try to focus on forgiveness and understanding the other person’s perspective.

#5 You Feel Resentful Towards Others

Feeling like a victim often means not taking responsibility for your own choices and actions. Instead, you feel like you are being controlled or mistreated by others. Try to take more responsibility for your own actions and choices and focus on finding solutions rather than feeling helpless. Look for the lesson in every situation and write down what you’ve learned from it and how it may help you move forward.

#7 You’re Always the One Who Takes Care of Other People

Neglecting your own needs is a sure sign that you need better boundaries. Doing favors and taking care of others constantly can potentially lead to burnout or resentment. Remember, when you’re on a flight, and the oxygen masks come down? Put your own mask on first. So make sure you are prioritizing your own needs and wants first. You can also learn to say “no” when necessary and prioritize your own well-being.

#8 You Feel Like You Can’t Say What You Want or Need

If you don’t feel confident in expressing your own needs and wants, you may end up feeling unheard or unimportant. Set boundaries and work on building your self-esteem and confidence. You should also try to practice expressing your needs and wants in a direct and assertive manner, and try to surround yourself with supportive people who will listen to and respect your needs.

#8 You Feel Like You Can’t Say What You Want or Need

If you haven’t set up clear boundaries for people, you may end up becoming passive-aggressive. This is because you’ll be doing things you don’t really want to do or letting people control situations where you feel you are not being heard. Remember that you are in charge of your own life as well as your own actions and feelings. Nothing will change unless you change it, and you cannot expect others to read your mind. 

We hope this list has helped you understand if you need better boundaries and that you can use the solutions offered.

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