A man has asked whether he is in the wrong or not for allowing his daughter to stay in his beach house rather than his girlfriend’s daughter.
Here’s what happened.
The 48-year-old man inherited a beach house from his grandfather, which has been in his family for generations.
The home carries a lot of sentimental value for the man, given how long it has been a part of his family.
He has been with his girlfriend for seven years, but he is on good terms with his ex-wife.
His girlfriend has a daughter from her previous marriage, just as he has a daughter with his ex-wife.
Both of the girls are 17 years old, and the man’s daughter is three months younger than Kara, his wife’s daughter.
Kara has been in the man’s life for the duration of his relationship, seven years. The two get along great.
Kara has an active father in her life, and the man doesn’t try to fill that role.
“I was in her life 50 percent of the time, so I have no doubt that I played a large role in her life,” he said.
“But I wouldn’t say father, but others do say (I am) a non-legal stepfather.”
He co-parents his own daughter, Emmy, with his ex-wife, though he would spend more time with her during the summers of each year due to their lifestyles.
That being said, the relationship between him, his ex-wife, and his daughter remains a good one.
Kara and Emmy get on well with each other. They have made plans that are independent of both the man and his girlfriend, but they do not consider themselves best friends or sisters.
Not long ago, an issue came up that divided the family.
Kara will soon be attending a school that is near the man’s family beach house, and so she asked him if she could stay there to save a significant amount of money.
His daughter Emmy, however, has also asked to live there after summer so she could live alone while in school.
“The home is more than big enough for two,” he said.
“But [Emmy] pointed out that they have very different lifestyles and would be far more comfortable alone or with a friend if I insisted she lives with someone,” the man said.
Emmy, in a frank conversation, then made the point that the home would be hers eventually, so it made sense for her to live there.
The man agreed and told Kara and his girlfriend, who were both very disappointed.
His girlfriend accused him of favoritism and said that he was setting up Emmy for success.
Kara, meanwhile, will be using loans and may have to take a gap year or perhaps attend another school entirely.
As such, the man is worried that he may have made a mistake and damaged his relationship with Kara.
He also agrees that it is favoritism, but as Emmy is his daughter, he feels it is natural to favor her.
So the man reached out to the Reddit community for their opinion.
“You’re Kara’s mom’s boyfriend and not Kara’s stepfather, seeing as you’re not married,” said one person.
“Kara’s dad needs to step up and support her if money is an issue.”
“This is not in any way favoritism because you aren’t married and do not share assets,” said another commenter.
“You haven’t legally adopted Kara, and the house isn’t some asset the girlfriend will ever be entitled to. Girlfriend and Kara are acting entitled and are 100 percent in the wrong.
What do you think? Did the man make the right choice by letting his daughter stay in the beach house?
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Source: Reddit
