A woman recently lied about her family heirlooms because her aunt and cousins have been trying to take the rings for themselves. Unsure if she was right to lie, she turned to Reddit for advice.
Here’s what she had to say.
The 24-year-old woman lost her beloved grandmother six months ago.
“My grandmother had several diamond rings that have now been passed down to my mom and aunt. My mom got three rings. My aunt got two,” she said.
The woman was an only child, as her mother had struggled with fertility issues, but her aunt had four daughters.
For almost six months, ever since the grandmother’s passing, the aunt had pestered the mother to find out who she would give her rings to when she died.
“My aunt has somehow gotten it in her head that instead of all the rings my mom got going to me when she passes, that she should leave two of them to two of her daughters instead since she doesn’t have enough to leave each one to her daughters,”
The mother refused and said the woman was “her only child and might have children one day to pass them down to as well.”
The mother tried to reason with her sister. She suggested that her sister take the diamonds out of the two rings and give them to her daughters to place in new ones so that they all got a ring.
The aunt said no, as there weren’t enough diamonds in the rings to equally split among her daughters. The aunt insisted the only way for it to be fair was if two of her daughters received two of the mother’s rings.
The aunt called and texted the mother almost daily about the rings, causing a significant amount of stress to the mother, who was still grieving the loss of her own mother.
The situation reached a boiling point when the aunt left a voicemail for the mother, ranting about the rings and stating, “It’s not my fault that I had four daughters and you had only one, and as a result, my daughters are being punished for your fertility issues.”
The woman heard the voicemail and was furious about how her aunt treated her mother.
A few days later, the woman had lunch with her cousin, who started asking about the rings.
The woman lied, saying that after her mother passed away, she would have her mother buried with all three rings.
The woman’s cousin was shocked, but she dropped the subject.
Then, a few hours after the lunch, the woman received angry texts and voicemails from her aunt, calling her selfish for depriving her cousins of the family heirlooms.
“I calmly told her that she pushed it to this point, and I wasn’t backing down. She had put my mom through so much unnecessary stress and heartache over some silly pieces of jewelry, and now they feel tainted to me as a constant reminder of how difficult these past months had been for my mom,” she said.
The aunt and her two oldest daughters now refuse to speak to the woman, but the mother hasn’t had to hear a single word about the rings since then.
The woman thought she did the right thing at the time but now doubts herself, so she posted on Reddit, asking for advice.
Reddit Responded
One user said, “I’m so sorry for your loss. You did the right thing by your mother and have done nothing wrong here. There’s a huge difference between lying and keeping information from people because it’s none of their business.”
Someone else replied, “Your aunt sounds like a selfish, greedy woman, and I bet your grandmother knew that she was only interested in the jewelry, and that’s precisely why your mother got the majority of them.”
Do you think the woman should have lied about the rings?
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Source: Reddit
