Her Mother’s Fiancé Wouldn’t Stop Insulting Her, So She Refused to Pay for Their Wedding Even Though They Begged for Her Money

A woman has asked if she is in the wrong for having refused her mother’s request for help with paying for her upcoming wedding. The woman had no notice of this and is being asked to contribute a significant amount. Here is what she had to say.

Her mother got engaged

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About four months ago, the 29-year-old woman’s mother got engaged to Joseph, her fiancée. While he is “a fairly nice guy,” he and the woman have different takes on many different topics, such as behaviors, appropriate boundaries, and politics.

He likes one particular joke

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Of all the jokes that Joseph makes, there is one that he has a notable liking for, in which he accuses the woman of being a gold digger, as her husband makes over double her own income.

She told him she didn’t like it

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“At first I tried to brush it off and privately texted him and my mom about why I didn’t appreciate these jokes, especially in front of family,” she said. “Now, before anyone thinks I’m actually a gold digger, my husband actually made less than me when we met.”

This didn’t change anything

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Although Joseph acknowledged over text that the woman was uncomfortable with the jokes, in person, he continued to make the same jokes and jibes. The woman has tried to ignore them.

They’ve been saving for the wedding

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Since they got engaged, the woman’s mother and her fiancée have been saving for the wedding, although Joseph has not saved as much as her. He feels that weddings “are just something to make your wife happy, and no husband actually likes them.” The woman feels this is a big red flag but has chosen not to say anything.

Her mother texted her

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Recently, the woman was messaged by her mother, who asked her when she was going to help with the costs of the ceremony.

She was stunned

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The woman feels that no child should have to help pay for one of their parents’ getting married, and she was genuinely shocked upon realizing what she had been asked. The woman noted that she could help with the cake or something similar, but nothing too large, as she had no idea that this would be expected of her.

Her mother was furious

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The woman’s mother continued, crying and calling her out for not even helping her pay for what would be “the best day of her life.” While the woman feels that she could have put something toward a smaller ceremony, her mother is expecting her to put over $15,000 toward the wedding.

Was she right?

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Eventually, the woman hung up on her mother. While she knows that she is her mother, she also feels that being expected to pay for a wedding is a step too far, especially given that she put no money toward the woman’s own wedding.

The internet responded

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One person said, “Tell her you will generously contribute exactly the amount she contributed to your wedding.”

Another commenter noted, “In this day and age, it shouldn’t be anyone’s responsibility to pay for a wedding except the bride and groom.”

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