27 Things Men Secretly Don’t Like About Being a Man (But Won’t Tell Anyone)

Being a man comes with its own set of expectations, responsibilities, and societal pressures. While some aspects of masculinity are celebrated, there are plenty of struggles that men face that they rarely talk about. After recent polling of the internet, here are 26 things men secretly hate about being a man.

Baldness

“I miss having hair to run my fingers through. In my teen years, I grew it out because I knew I wouldn’t have it for the rest of my life.”

Having to ‘Power Through’

“Many people in my life assume that I can just turn off my anxiety and depression at will to “power through” because… manly man reasons.”

“And if you fail to do just that, then you risk being seen as weak, and you’re treated even more poorly.”

Becoming Aroused Simply By Touching

“It’s most likely just the act of close touch. My husband has the same problem, and he jokes and says, “ignore that.”

Peeing

“Taking a wizz and having the rest leak out 5 minutes later.”

“When I go to pee and have it all lined up just for it to shoot out a 40-degree angle.”

“Even worse is when you get a split stream where you can’t angle both of them into the bowl at the same time.“

Automatic Assumption That They Know About Mechanics, Carpentry, and DIY

“I notice this with my dad. Everyone assumes he knows what he’s talking about when it comes to mechanics or DIY stuff, but he has no idea, so he comes to ask me or my mum because he’s utterly clueless. Yet no matter how much he tells people, they still keep coming back to him.”

Being Expected to Romantically Initiate

“Yeah it really sucks, especially if you’re like me and have social anxiety.”

“ Guys are expected to go up to girls to start a conversation or ask them out. Why?”

Seen as a Threat

 “I hate how uncomfortable I can sometimes make women when walking alone at night. Like sometimes you can just tell when they start walking faster and try to give you a wide berth.”

Not Feeling Desired

“If there’s any one thing, it’s that I never feel like I’m desired. If I don’t make a move, no moves will be made.”

“Most men feel unvalued due to the lack of attention.”

Prostate Cancer

“The risk of prostate cancer is significantly increased by smoking. So you know, protect your junk, don’t smoke.”

Not Being Seen

“Nobody asks you how you are doing, if you need help, or acknowledges that you exist at all. If you have problems you just have to deal with it yourself and get over it.”

Mens Fashion

“I’ve had absolutely no luck finding anything I like, and all my current clothes are very plain.”

“Looking at an entire wall of clothing in a store and only seeing neutral colors and blue.”

Pressure

“Tons of pressure to lead, to earn, and to provide. All while walking on a very narrow rope.”

“I’m always the one expected to come up with date night plans, or travel itineraries, or getting bills/charges paid.”

Having to Kill The Spider

“B*itch I’m scared too.”

Always Expected to be Strong

“Visually, I’m a big strong man. I’m 6′ and not athletic, but decent build. The thing is, I’ve got health issues that you don’t see on the outside. People assume I’m young and healthy and can go go go, but I have my limits.”

Having to be Extra Careful Around Children

“I love children, and I would love to babysit, but people think it’s creepy that a man likes children.”

“I cannot hold my daughter’s hand while walking down the street without getting weird looks.”

Can’t Be Friends With Women Without People Assuming I Want to Sleep With Them

“This hits hard. In my work team the only two males are myself and a mate. The other 11 are all women.”

Societal Expectations

“A broke mom is trying her best, a broke dad is a deadbeat.”

“My ex-wife owes me so much child support money it’s obscene, and she’s never been to jail even once for it.”

The Assumption You Are Always in the Mood For Sex

“Sometimes I just don’t feel it, and that should be good enough.”

Unable to Show Emotion

“I cannot show emotion or weakness because people will think less of me. I cannot have problems, cannot open up about them.”

“Sometimes it feels like, as a man, you’re not allowed to have feelings or emotions, but that movie is so sad, and I didn’t want the dog to die either!”

Unable to Compliment a Woman

“The fact that I can’t pay women compliments about their hair, nails, perfume, clothes without it being interpreted as anything more than a compliment. I don’t want to date you, just want to tell you that you look nice today.”

Assuming We’re Angry or in a Bad Mood

“Just because we’re in our own head space in that moment, not thinking about anything or anyone. Just you and your thoughts, no emotions. just neutral and content. Then all comes crumbling down with a stupid comment like, “why do you always have a serious look on your face?”

Not Being Able to Discuss an Issue Without it Being Compared to a Similar Problem of the Opposite Gender

“Yes, ladies, it’s incredibly f*cked that you have to be fearful of being raped or sexually assaulted; we understand that issue, but that doesn’t mean it means men being feared of false rape accusations is not valid. It can ruin a man’s life just as rape can ruin a woman’s life. Why does it have to be a competition?”

Unable to Take Part in Female-Dominated Hobbies

“Women express interest in man-dominated hobbies, and no one bats an eye. Men express interest in woman-dominated hobbies, and everyone loses their minds.”

Paternity Leave

“My wife got 12 months paid I got 2 weeks. it’s just not enough. The baby wasn’t even settled in by then.”

Unable to Adopt if You’re Single

“I want to be a single dad. The adoption process will be a pain in the rear, to say the least.”

Assumption That all Men are the Same

“Being lumped in by default with toxic, creepy men by gender association and always having to go out of my way to prove I’m not one of them.”

Source: Reddit