As we grow older, we inevitably learn things about life that we may not have realized in our younger years. A recent internet poll asked, “what is one ugly truth you learned as you got older?” and we compiled the top 22 answers below.
No One In Your Family Is Perfect
“It’s almost like when you move out, you just start seeing things without the rose-colored glasses.”
“I used to think my family was perfect when I was a kid. Now I understand they are so far from perfect it’s crazy.”
You Can’t Always Save Someone From Themselves
“This is so true and something I learned the hard way.”
“You can’t make choices for them. You can’t live their life.”
Sometimes You’re Better Off With Friends, And Without Family
“My friends are my family now, and life is so much better this way.”
“I learned this at a very young age, and it still holds true. I feel like the definition of family varies from person to person.”
‘Happily Ever After’ Is Very Rare
“Both people have to work hard and do so for the entire duration of the relationship. One person can’t shoulder it alone.”
“Relationships and friendships take a lot of work, and you should be ready to let people walk away.”
Love is NOT all you need
“So true! Love isn’t everything. There’s a lot more to life and relationships than just love. That’s an oversimplification.”
Staying A Healthy Weight Takes Hard Work And Discipline
“It’s completely true what they say. It’s really all about diet and exercise. There truly is no magic bullet.”
“That 20 pounds I need to lose isn’t coming off without hard work.”
If It’s Not A Definite Yes, It’s Probably A No
“‘If they wanted to, they would’ was huge for me and changed my life.”
“Applicable in a vast array of situations, unfortunately.”
You Don’t Always Get Out What You Put Into Things
“There is something to be said about working smarter, not harder, as well as knowing your worth.”
“I have been actively trying to notice when I am doing something that just isn’t working towards my goals.”
Strong Feelings For A Loved One Aren’t Always Reciprocated
“It’s hard when you realize the energy and time you invested thinking it was really important was only one-sided.”
“And that sinking feeling when you realize that you aren’t your best friend’s best friend.”
Introspection Is The Hardest Skill That I’ve Found
“We all have some things we need to work on changing or improving about ourselves.”
“As a previous mentor told me, self-awareness sucks until it doesn’t.”
People Who Seem To Be Coping Well Just Have A Routine
“It’s all about routine and writing stuff down in a place you can access it quickly. It’s all a learned skill.”
“The perception that you have your life together is half the battle.”
It’s A Disadvantage, As A Woman, To Be Unattractive
“One of the reasons I hate getting old is that I know I will get less cooperation from others at work or anywhere else.”
“I’ve always had people look at me in disgust regardless of how clean and groomed I am. I just didn’t win the genetic lottery.”
Being Born To Privilege Gives You A Significant Advantage In Life
“The quality of your life greatly depends on when, why, and how you were born and the family you ended up with. It’s really unfair.”
“Sometimes I see someone just breezing by because they were born into wealth.”
A Lot Of Adults Are Immature, Even Over 30
“I realize this now at my first “real” job.”
“It is absolutely staggering how far people can get in their lives with the same old juvenile behavior.”
Your Parents Love You Conditionally
“A secret I learned from my therapist – ALL love is conditional. And that’s actually pretty freeing.”
“Unconditional love sounds nice, but there is always a breaking point.”
You Have To Start Saving Early For Retirement
“Capitalism is the worst. The world doesn’t need to be this way.”
“Stupid me didn’t stop and think that if I put a little bit of money away from age 21, I would be a millionaire right now.”
Don’t Depend On Others For Your Happiness
“The truth that trumps all others.”
“Become someone that makes you happy. Think of the people that give you joy, how they do that, and try to be a version of yourself that you love the most.”
Good And Capable People Don’t Always Succeed
“It is possible to commit no mistakes and still lose. That is not a weakness; that is life.”
“I thought if I’d do anything right, if I’d do anything perfectly, then I would be rewarded.”
Love Is Not A Feeling, It’s A Choice
“You choose to love that person when they change, when they mess up, when they’re down, all of the bad stuff that happens in life; you choose to love them through that.”
“So you choose to love them day after day, even after the shiny newness wears off.”
Patriarchy Has Taught Both Men And Women To Hate Women
“Someone get a megaphone and blast this everywhere.”
“Truth! We have to stick together to fight it.”
Older Women Are Ignored By Society
“It’s shocking, especially if you are blessed with conventional beauty. You realize how far looks got you, even if you fought against it the whole time.”
“True, sad, and a big hit to the ego (with lovers and at work and society in general).”
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