Attention, ladies! It’s time to take a closer look at the words and phrases we use when communicating with the men in our lives. Someone recently asked, “Men, what’s one thing you wish women would stop saying?’ and here are the top 23 answers.
So-and-so’s Husband Does It, Why Can’t You?
“Babe, her husband is 30 years older than me and retired. He has the time. I don’t.”
“The thing that really irks me; is she’ll cherry-pick one good thing some guy does and ignore his weaknesses.”
“She’s giving it the whole “why can’t you be more like Gary,” and you’re thinking, more like Gary?… so you want me to pawn your jewelry to pay for sex?”
You Can’t Handle Me
“Relationships are about building each other up, not constantly dealing with the other person’s poor behavior/mental health. This is not flex and raises major red flags.”
“The type of girls who say they are ONLY trouble and have no insight as to why they act as they do. It is mental.”
“Handled? Like a vicious dog? Why can’t she just act right and be a decent person?”
I Don’t Know What I Want To Eat (But I Don’t Like Your Suggestions)
“It’s one of the most widely joked about relationship tropes, but it has to be one of the truest. I watched two married friends this weekend almost lose it over this.”
“Frustrating! My partner does this. If you put her in a room with her two favorite foods and told her she couldn’t eat until she chose, she would starve to death. It makes me crazy.”
Do Whatever You Want
“Right up there with “fine” and “I guess.” You know you will pay for it later.”
“It’s not permission. It’s a dare. Be brave and foolish? Or heed the warning?”
“My wife says this a lot. My first wife did, too. I wish I was kidding.”
Do You Like My Friend?
“Because it always ends up in an argument either way; there is no safe answer!”
“Try; ‘It’s hard to tell. I haven’t seen her naked yet.’ That ought to work!”
“My ex would not let me meet her friends because she was certain I would fall for them. She later had a dream I had slept with her best friend, whom I had never met, and was mad at me for “cheating.” There are no words.”
I Just Think It’s Funny How…
“That’s never good. Nor funny. But it IS funny that that is the case every damn time.”
“I always hear Morgan Freeman’s voice saying; ‘She did not, in fact, think it was funny.'”
“It’s usually followed by a criticism, most likely something we have no idea we did.”
Do I Look Fat?
“They say ‘be honest’ after, and you start sweating because you are screwed either way.”
“As a modern woman, you do not need a man to validate your self-image. Take a look in the mirror and ask yourself whether you look fat.”
“Definitely don’t add that they might need two mirrors…”
Tell Me What You Are Thinking
“If I wanted you to know what I was thinking about, I’d be talking.”
“My wife never, ever asks me what I’m thinking. I thanked her recently because my ex used to ask all the time. So, to be funny, out of the blue at dinner, she asked me what I was thinking, so I told her. It was just a random mix of barely connected thoughts and triggered memories. She hasn’t asked again!”
We Need To Talk
“Hit her back with the “We sure do!” Now we are both suffering.”
“I’ve had to work with my wife about texting; “We need to talk” with no other context. It’s super stressful and counter-productive, so we discussed it. It’s learned from pop culture and is dumb. So she stopped doing it, and it’s much better.”
We Need To Do X
“99% of the time, THIS means I need to do “X,” and she just wants to tell me to fix/clean/buy/move whatever X happens to be.”
“I refer to this as the ‘Royal We.’ If I’m feeling snarky, I may also suggest we need to kiss our cheeks. Usually, I just do what she wants, though.”
I Just Hate Drama
“It always means they are the drama and talk about other people’s problems constantly.”
“There’s another variation of this that means the same thing: “I don’t get along with other girls.” That’s not something that needs to be advertised or a point of pride. If a girl tells you this, she is 100% the biggest source of drama and conflict within miles.”
You Won’t Tell Me What You’re Thinking Because You’re Hiding Something
“Most of the time “nothing” is just a random situation that makes no sense; I don’t know why I’m trying to think which animal would be the best drift racer, and I don’t know where to start explaining the thought process behind it, or how I even got there.”
“We are hiding something. We’re hiding just how stupid the thing we’re thinking of is.”
What Are Your Plans For The Day?
“I have to instantly make something up, or else she will say, ‘I see you don’t have anything planned on this day, so let’s fill it up with lots of stuff instead of letting you relax.’ Great.”
“I’m going to stop you right there and say that I am planning to do nothing today.”
“Just because I haven’t planned anything doesn’t mean I’m not going to do anything. I might wake up, see the weather, and head out for an unplanned adventure.”
Are You Even Listening To Me?
“I always think to myself, what a weird way to start a conversation.”
“She gave me a bunch of stick about me not listening to her enough or something. I don’t know. I wasn’t really paying attention.”
“No, I wasn’t listening to you. I was using a VR headset. I didn’t even know you were in the room.”
Be A Man
“This normally means be exactly the type of person I want you to be (at all times), no matter how unreasonable I’m being. So, pretty much the opposite of an actual man.”
“A version of this phrase; “man up,” ended my ten-year relationship.”
“That is so unacceptable. My ex used to say that and other demeaning rubbish.”
How Are You Still Single?
“I hear it a lot from some women friends of mine. I always brush it off, but it stings a bit more each time.”
“I try not to say this a lot anymore; instead, I say that I think they’re an awesome person and they deserve happiness. It’s actually closer to what I mean anyway.”
“Somebody (not me) should date you. Wow, thanks.”
Why Are You So Defensive?
“Translation: why are you defending yourself against the false accusations that I’m spewing at you? Why can’t you just accept I’m mad at you for misinterpreting something you did or said? Utterly exhausting and pointless.”
“I just realized that I couldn’t stand up for myself in a past relationship because of this.”
You Just Need To Put Yourself Out There
“Women’s perspectives on this are warped because “putting themselves out there” really is the only thing they have to do.”
“This is the most annoying advice. It always comes from someone who’s been with their partner since they were 15 and had never in their life had to put themselves out there.”
Who Are You, And How Did You Get Into My Home?
“This one often leads to; ‘Why are you covered in olive oil?’ or ‘Why are you in my shower?'”
“You cook someone a nice meal, clean up the place, and even get the mail, and you never hear “Thank you” or “That was nice of you,” it is just a bunch of screams and threats to call the police. Apparently, I’m an ‘intruder.’ How rude.”
I’ll Let You Know
“Or any variation of that when I’m initiating a plan. Just say no. It’s okay. They almost always never let me know.”
“I was shocked when I actually heard back from a woman once. Honestly, I was about to make other plans because I assumed she meant no. It was very delightful.”
I Was Thinking…
“Whenever my wife says that means I’m going to be doing something I don’t want to.”
“My question; How much is this going to cost? How much of the house are you going to tear apart? How many different appointments/consultations have you already booked? How many weeks will this go on before you get bored and move on?”
Oh, You Are Babysitting Today!
“I hope not; I’m pretty sure these are all mine.”
“Even worse is ‘Nice to see Grandpa babysitting today!’ Especially if you’re a dad who isn’t even 40 yet.”
“Just say; no, we’re on a date, actually. That always sees them off.”
I Need To Train Him More
“Relationships are a great way to have a different perspective and take things on in different ways. To say you trained your friend or boyfriend is incredibly dehumanizing and makes you seem incredibly narcissistic and manipulative.”
“You didn’t train your boyfriend to use conditioner. You just made him realize that (even though it has no value to HIM), it isn’t worth the nagging not to use it.”
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