There’s no doubt that men and women have struggled to communicate throughout history, but what are some things that men wish women knew? From a recent internet poll, here are the top 23 answers.
How Much Compliments Mean
“We can ride that wave for quite a while.”
“When I was in middle school, a girl I had a crush on told me I had beautiful eyes. That was 22 years ago, and I STILL ride that high.”
“I’ve gotten maybe three compliments in my life, and I re-live them a lot.”
Playing ‘Hard To Get’ Doesn’t Work
“It’s 2023; I’m not going to chase her. If she says “no,” I’m backing all the way up.”
“100%. I recently found out that someone I asked out a few months ago was really into me, but when I asked them out, they plain rejected me. Then they went crying to one of our mutual friends two weeks later. They wanted me to pursue them; I don’t have time for that.”
How Little We Know About Our Friends
“I don’t know what they’ll do in the future. I don’t know that much about their romantic life. They don’t know anything about me. Sometimes guys spend time around each other and don’t get too mixed up in the past or the future.”
“It’s much more meaningful to me to know if they like Monopoly than if they want kids.”
We Don’t Know How To React To Compliments
“If you genuinely compliment a guy, don’t be upset if they don’t react the same way a woman would.”
“There is a part of them that wonders if it was genuine or if it’s a polite and/or pity compliment. This often leads to an unenthusiastic response.”
“It never occurs to most guys to just say “Thanks!”
When We Say “I don’t mind,” We Don’t Mind
“Why wouldn’t other people mean it too? Only if they are passive-aggressive jerks.”
“If they didn’t actually mean what they said, then maybe they shouldn’t have said it to begin with, and they deserve to be taken at their words for trying to play mind games.”
We Don’t Hang Out With Our Friends Just To Avoid Our Partners
“I really like to hang out with just me, by myself. Not because I don’t want to spend time with my wife.
“Men have needs that no significant other can fulfill, and those needs are the boys.”
“My friends are family to me. I understand you want to spend the day with me, but we have tons of time to hang out, and we do. Except for every other Saturday. It’s for the boys.”
We Don’t Receive Many Romantic Gestures
“I got asked out on a date once, six years ago. I still recount it for the serotonin boost.”
“I got an unexpected holiday card from a chick I worked with 18 years ago, and I still think it was one of the nicest things anyone has ever done for me.”
“Many men don’t even know whether they enjoy being the target of such gestures or not.”
We Love Being Asked Out
“I’m an above-average looking guy, and, honestly, if the girl makes the first move, there is an 80% chance I will say yes to a date.”
“Same here, and then I’d thank them tremendously for asking.”
If You Like A Man, Be Direct
“Even if she is flirting, his self-esteem is so low his internal dialog talks him out of believing she’s interested in him in a romantic context.”
“Ask him out on a date (specifically say “date”), so there is no mistaking your intention.”
“The worst thing likely to happen is that he’ll say no. Which does sting, but not like spending a month throwing hints he never responds to.”
We Like Hugs
“Can I also make a point that hugs are not for the boob contact? Girls can be very conscious of this. I’m going for a hug. I’m in it for the hug.”
“A girl in my class hugged me on my last day at school before moving, and I still go back to that from time to time.”
We Need Alone Time
“The longer I go without it, the more I need it.”
“Many years ago, I told my girlfriend I wanted to stay in and practice my bass and learn some songs. When I phoned her the next day, she told me she’d been crying all night and thought I was breaking up with her.”
Not Every Thought We Have Is About You
“Every expression that crosses our face does not relate to you. Some of us have a lot going on between the ears, and we’re trying to make sense of it.”
“My mind can go on wild tangents in a second. My wife says something that triggers a thought, that triggers a memory that makes me think of that time when my friend did that thing; now I’m grinning while she’s talking about how we need to get the roof fixed.”
Sometimes It’s Too Hot For Snuggling
“She was sleeping on me, and my mind was screaming, GET OFF ME WOMAN! HOW ARE YOU UNDER A BLANKET IN THIS HEAT? I know not to wake a demon, so I let her be.”
“Get away from me at night in the summertime. I still love you. I’m just hot and don’t want to snuggle.”
We Enjoy Random Kindnesses
“We like random gifts/hugs/signs of affection. Just a cup of coffee in my favorite mug is enough to convince me it’s going to be a good day.”
“Absolutely. My wife used to do little things like place her hand on the small of my back or touch my shoulder as she walked past. These tiny acts are the main thing I miss.”
If You Don’t Tell Us, We Don’t Know
“We all love to make you happy. Just tell us what to do. It makes it less embarrassing.”
“Say what you want or need or what you’re feeling, and we’ll hear you. Subtle hints or expecting us to read minds will not work.”
“I think that everyone should always just assume that everyone else wants chocolate brought back from the shop. It would solve a lot of problems in the world.”
Computer Games Are Relaxing
“I am perfectly happy sitting in silence/playing video games for a few hours, and it doesn’t mean I’m mad at/ignoring you/don’t want to spend time together. I’m just chilling.”
“I’m an introvert, and she doesn’t understand that I NEED that time to decompress. A weekend of ‘activities’ isn’t unfun. I need to retreat to my games at some point.”
Silence Can Be Good
“Just because I’m not talking doesn’t mean I’m not enjoying my time with you.”
“Exactly. If I have nothing to add to the conversation, it’s better I stay quiet. I don’t want to annoy you by talking too much.”
“I knew I was going to marry my now wife when I realized that the silences in our relationship weren’t awkward.”
We Don’t Want To Be The Designated Initiator
“We want to be seen as sexy, beautiful creatures. Many of us want to be also pursued, to feel like we don’t have to always motivate women into wanting us.”
“Same; I even stopped initiating with my girlfriend because my libido has severely dropped from not feeling wanted.”
The Truth Isn’t Always What You Want To Hear
“Why bother asking a question? You get mad when you don’t like the honest answer.”
“It’s literally beyond me how they can sit there and basically say “I didn’t want the truth; I wanted you to white-lie to me.” Excuse me for doing WHAT YOU ASKED ME to do. I don’t understand; it looks like I’m not the only one.”
We Get Hurt Feelings
“When we fight, and I tell you that something you said or did hurt me, I’m not trying to belittle you, blame you entirely, or make you the bad guy. I’m telling you because I want you to know how I feel.”
“I think I remember a quote; “What the axe forgets, the tree remembers,” and that is true for everyone; men included.”
We Like Nerdy, Boyish Stuff
“I want real knight armor for my birthday, but I’m not allowed to say so because society forces me to hide it.”
“Just get some swords and hang them on the wall around your house as a hint. She’ll get it eventually if she truly understands you.”
“Then the horse and horse armor. Then you buy a lance. Hire a few squires.”
Just Because We Can’t Cry, Doesn’t Mean We’re Not Sad
“Sometimes stuff is just difficult. For no reason, I can be sad; just because I don’t cry doesn’t mean I’m not sad. We have big emotions, just like you do; they just don’t always leak out of our eyes.”
“We need just as much support as you do. Sometimes we’re screaming on the inside, and we need someone to let us know it’s okay.”
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